Therapy is a bitch 2!

Yes, there’s a two!

Woohoo!

not.

Anyway, I finally went to see this other one, and she asked me annoying questions:
”Who are you?”, “What is sex?” and “What is male and female?”
And then she drew something like this: and asked me to place where I was. Well, actually, the male and female were reversed. And since my whole view of what is male and female is completely skewed, it got me aggravated, but I went along with it anyway.
My reason for aggravation?

Donnie Darko.
No, I’m serious.
Donnie Darko. As in, the movie. Silly, right?

Well, I was thinking about the point in the movie where the class is asked to put a line on the feeling spectrum of Love and Fear to match the card they got. I sort of felt like this when she asked me to place me. And she asked to give some stereotypical traits to male and female. Which seemed damn near impossible. What does this have to do with Donnie, you ask?
WELL…

I believe male and female cannot be lumped together in such a spectrum because stereotypes show very little thought. The way Donnie felt emotions couldn’t be. They lump everything together, right or wrong. True or false. And I have a problem with this. Male and female are sexes, not genders. And my SEX is not my GENDER. Sex is your organs and what not, gender is what you feel you are. Traits are pointless because not all guys like football and not all girls like makeup. Not all guys are assholes and not all girls are whores. See where I’m going? Not all guys have short hair and not all girls long. And this is my problem. And she wants to help me figure out me in this way. It’s like, “Okay, describe yourself with objects, colours, actions and stereotypes.”
”I am the colour blue. I like this. I do this.” Likes, dislikes and things you do ARE NOT YOU. We are all of the emotions that make up ourselves. Our personality, I guess. And due to the fact not all men like this and not all men like that and not all women like this and that, it seems pointless to even try this exercise because male and female gender-wise is a feeling, an emotion and not words. Unless you’ve come up with words for this, I stand corrected. So, therefore, for me to do this was extremely pointless, yet necessary to “find out who I am.” I believe this to be absurd. I know who I am, and do not need help figuring out what I already know. I’ve denied, yes, but now I am aware. And being aware of ones emotions is something not many people can do. Being aware consciously of who exactly you are, is tough. And with all of the emotions involved, I have come to the complete and total conclusion that I am male gender-wise. Sex-wise, not a chance. But due to the fact I see gender as an emotion and not a scientific fact, nor a bunch of objects and actions on a line, I can’t do that. You may have different views, that’s fine. But, I felt I needed to rant a little bit on the fact that I think gender is not sex.

THAT is why I cannot answer male and female because she meant gender. If she meant sex, I could say, “Yeah. Male is a being that has a male reproductive organ and females are the ones with female reproductive organs who usually give birth. Unless you’re a seahorse or another animal that does that.”

But, since it was gender, I found it troubling and difficult.

Now for what the dictionary says:

Websters: sex - 1: either of the two major forms of individuals that occur in many species and that are distinguished respectively as female or male especially on the basis of their reproductive organs and structures2: the sum of the structural, functional, and behavioral characteristics of organisms that are involved in reproduction marked by the union of gametes and that distinguish males and females
gender - the behavioral, cultural, or psychological traits typically associated with one sex.

Onto the next:

Dictionary: sex -

1.
either the male or female division of a species, esp. as differentiated with reference to the reproductive functions.

2.
the sum of the structural and functional differences by which the male and female are distinguished, or the phenomena or behavior dependent on these differences.

gender -

1. The condition of being female or male; sex.
2. Females or males considered as a group: expressions used by one gender.

Sexual identity, especially in relation to society or culture.

1. The condition of being female or male; sex.
2. Females or males considered as a group: expressions used by one gender.

And the last:

Urban-dictionary (okay, I know this one is bit unorthodox, but can you blame me?):
sex (took a while to find…-_-) -

1. Females or Males considered as a group, known as gender.
gender - your mode of self-reflection or ID dealing with how you see yourself (or don't see yourself) in terms of your sex.

there are two sexes, but countless genders.

2. A societal construct that is, in actuality, about as useless and restrictive as race.

There may be unfathomable, uncrossable chasm that exist between certain types of people, but gender should not be considered one of them.

3. How one defines themselves with clothes, pronouns, how they carry themselves, etc (i.e. male, female, androgynous, etc). Different from sex- ex: a person may be born female (sex) but identify as male (gender), though for many, sex and gender are synonymous.

"I prefer female pronouns such as 'she' and 'her', because female is my gender." Or "My gender is androgynous, though my sex is male."

Here and mine, here are others. You may not agree with any. You may agree with all. What’re your thoughts?

These were mine.

 

RxD